Avoidance tactics

Avoidance tactics

As a trained life coach I feel a certain obligation to have my life sorted out…

I struggled with this for a long time and to be perfectly honest I still do. So what do I do….I find things to get distracted by, avoidance tactics – perfect excuse – I am so busy over here that I don’t need to deliver as a coach and surely no one would expect me to under the circumstances. Perfect I have bought myself some more time

Now I certainly don’t recommend this course of action as the results well they simply don’t work. Yes I get a certain sense of satisfaction from achieving on other fronts, BUT in the back of my mind I know I am repeating that same negative behavior and setting myself up to fail yet again! Or at the very least to stay in the holding pattern.

So what to do ?

Firstly it is important I acknowledge the avoidance tactics I am using. One thing I am good at is making myself busy, it is amazing how I can fill my day in with goodness knows what – but wow am I busy!  So this is my first change – I am establishing a daily habit of quiet time, reintroducing self care.  Meditating and reading coach appropriate books to inspire me.

Now the cynic in me suggests this could be another avoidance tactic – indeed it may be however these new habits support my coaching as opposed to sabotaging it.

The other thing I am doing is challenging my perfectionist traits – I don’t need to know everything (simply not possible) and I acknowledge that sometimes I may well fail (ugh!).  I am actually going to use this as a bit of a mantra – so in the positive ” I am stepping outside my comfort zone ready or not!

So these simple changes I have made don’t cost anything except my time and I am so worth my own time.

Can you see where you could make some simple changes in your life to support your goals and dreams ?

Take the first step …….you are so worth it !









Who am I ?

Who am I ?

Who am I – these are such powerful and intimate words !

To be yourself, in a world that tries, night and day, to make you just like everybody else – is to fight the greatest battle there ever is to fight and never stop fighting. E E Cummings

I encourage you to stop for a moment and remember a time when you felt fully alive and excited !

This can be on many different levels, there are the life stopping moments and then the day to day moments….let’s focus on the day to day for starters.

For me, walking down the paint aisle in the hardware store makes me excited, why you may ask ? Well one of my core passions is creativity, so when I am creative I am being ME, I get in the zone, my energy levels increase and I am motivated.

Now flip this around, when I am doing something that is not my passion – let’s say cooking – I am not motivated nor do I enjoy the process.  As cooking is basically a necessity I suck it up and cook, however I would not choose to cook for pleasure – safe to say you won’t be seeing me on MasterChef or MKR.

So think about it, what makes your heart sing ?

Start incorporating these into your every day life – at least weekly ! While I don’t paint every week, I express my creativity through my website, watching renovation shows and writing my blog.

It is time to Reignite YOU !

I will leave you with another of my favorite quotes…Be yourself – everyone else is already taken. Oscar Wilde.